How do you build a healthy, respectful relationship with your partner?
Here are White Ribbon’s top tips for building a respectful relationship:
A key aspect of any healthy relationship is equality. That means both people in the relationship have equal power. One person shouldn’t have power or control over the other person. Decisions should be made together, not for the other person. Both voices must be heard fairly and decisions reached together. One person should not be “in charge” of the other person.
Good communication involves being a good listener and talking openly about how you’re feeling. It also involves respecting the other person’s thoughts, feelings and opinions. Good communication helps you feel connected and supported. Conflict arises in all relationships so it’s important to talk things through in a respectful way to help resolve disagreements.
Consent to sexual activity in any kind of context or relationship should never be assumed. You must never pressure a person into doing something they’re not comfortable doing. Both people must consent and each person has a right to change their mind at any time. Sexual activity without consent is illegal.
4. Taking responsibility
It’s important to take responsibility for your actions if you are violent or disrespectful towards women. The toolbox offers several practical things you can do if you find yourself in that situation. Tips include: believe your life can get better, talk to someone you trust, be aware of your feelings, and learn about your own behaviour.
5. Helping other men
It’s important to help those around you to be respectful to women. Encourage family members, such as sons, to respect women and talk about what it means to be in a healthy relationship. If you hear or see anything that disrespects women, speak up and let the person know it’s not OK to speak or act like that.
Respectful relationship toolbox White Ribbon NZ