Sex and ageing – tips

Just because you start getting on in years, doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a fulfilling sex life.

While the intensity and frequency of sex may diminish as you age due to physical and hormonal changes, it doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy some bedroom time.

Communication with your partner is key to connecting and keeping your sex life flourishing – no matter how old you are.

Here are our top 10 tips to improve your sex life as you age.

1. Keep fit and healthy

Getting regular exercise and eating a healthy diet is good for your overall health. But it also helps you with your sex life by giving you energy and stamina. It may also help prevent any sprains or strains.

2. Include pelvic floor exercises

Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles with regular pelvic floor exercises can improve your ability to have sex. A strong pelvic floor –the layer of muscle that stretches from your pubic bone in the front to your tail bone at the back – also improves bladder and bowel control.

3. Have realistic expectations

Remember you’re not young anymore and the sex life you once had is not the one you’re likely to have in your golden years. It doesn’t mean it won’t be as good, it might just be different.

4. Take your time

Take things slowly. As you age, your sexual responses may take longer, which can open the door to new types of experiences. Set aside more time for foreplay.

5. Make it romantic

Foreplay doesn’t have to be physical. It can be something that enhances your emotional connection, such as a romantic dinner or listening to music you both enjoy.

6. Educate yourself

Take some time to read and research articles about sex in later life. There’s a whole lot of information and self-help books that you and your partner could read – either separately or together.

7. Use lubrication

For women, vaginal dryness is a common problem as age sets in due to changing hormonal levels. Lubricating gels and liquids can help. However, if that doesn’t work, talk to your nurse or GP for advice. There are hormonal-based prescription creams and pessaries that can make the world of difference.

8. Impotence/erectile dysfunction

For men, erectile dysfunction (inability to maintain an erect penis) can be more common in later years. There are medications that can help. If it’s an ongoing problem, talk to your nurse or GP for advice.

9. Maintain physical affection

There are many ways to connect sexually. It’s not just about intercourse. Certain physical limitations in older age may mean you need to think differently about how to give each other physical pleasure.

10. Experiment

With many years of experience under your belt, you may have an increase in confidence in the bedroom. This may allow you to relax more, have more fun and try new things.

If you have any concerns relating to your sexual functioning, physical or emotional, please talk to your healthcare provider.


Sexuality in later life National Institute of Health, UK

Credits: Health Navigator Editorial Team.