Being pregnant is hard work! It takes a lot of energy to grow a few cells into a living, breathing, crying baby. Your pregnant partner will be doing the hard work over those first nine months but you can make her job a lot easier by showing that you support and care for her.
Parenting is a team effort, so make sure you are part of the team from the very beginning. Supporting your partner emotionally and physically is so important on your journey into parenthood so here’s our top tips for being a supportive partner during pregnancy:
1. Be there to listen
Pregnancy produces many different hormones, some are happy hormones and some are grumpy ones. Be there to listen to your partner’s worries, anxieties and concerns. You may not have all the answers but your partner will appreciate having someone to talk to.
Listen to all the good things too! Share in the excitement of baby’s movements, hear how much they’ve grown and talk about your hopes and dreams for your child. And contribute to the list of possible names.
2. Do more of the chores
Nausea, vomiting and extreme exhaustion are common in pregnancy, especially in the first trimester. Your partner may not have the energy to do much around the house, but housework still needs to be done. If you don’t already, start cooking and cleaning and helping around the house. They’re also good skills to have once your baby arrives.
3. Do things without being asked
An impromptu back rub or foot massage will always be appreciated. As your baby grows, your partner will start to find things physically harder. She’s looking after your growing baby, so make sure you’re looking after her.
4. Be on the journey with her
Chances are your partner will spend time reading about what to expect during pregnancy and childbirth, especially if this is baby number one. Read the books with her, find out what to expect during each trimester and go with her to the doctor and midwife appointments. The more you know the more support you can offer. Talk to other parents, maybe even your own, about what parenthood is like.
5. Organise your parental leave
Most employees are entitled to one or two weeks of parental leave when the baby is born. Use your time at home to look after your partner, and as a time to bond with your new baby.