Being comfortable with who you are

When was the last time you gave yourself a compliment or a pat on the back for a job well done?

Being comfortable with who are – both the good and not so good – and being kind to yourself when things go wrong increases your enjoyment of life, resilience and wellbeing.

Nobody is perfect and having constant criticism in your head is bound to lead to unhappiness. It’s not about ignoring past mistakes or what you don’t do well, but rather working with yourself, not against.

Here are some ways to help feel comfortable with who you are:

1. Don’t compare yourself

Constantly comparing yourself to others is a one-way ticket to feeling unhappy. Social media envy is an easy trap to fall into but remember a lot of what you see on there is not an accurate reflection of reality. Try taking a break from social media or limiting your time on it to help keep things real.

2. It’s okay to fail

It’s okay to mess up or fail at something. Nobody is perfect and failing is part of the human experience. If you do fail at something, don’t be too hard on yourself. Instead, use it as an opportunity to learn. Knowing it’s okay to fail allows you to try more things and take more chances.

3. Look after yourself

Keeping yourself physically and mentally well is an important part of feeling good about yourself. Eating well, getting good quality sleep and exercising regularly helps keep you in tip top shape and feeling good. Thank your body every day for all the work it does for you.

4. Do things you enjoy

Doing things for yourself that you enjoy makes you feel happy and content. While it’s nice to do things for others, make sure it’s not at the expense of yourself or your own wellbeing. It’s okay to say “no” in order to make sure you have quality time to do the things you love. Learning to enjoy your own company is a good way to get to know yourself and feel comfortable with who you are.

5. Embrace your uniqueness

How boring would the world be if we were all the same? Embrace and love the things that make you different. Try thinking of your uniqueness as a strength, not a weakness. Let go of the expectations and values of others and find your own path to happiness. Surround yourself with supportive people so you have the confidence to be your authentic self.


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